If I were to tell you that my wedding day was the greatest day of my life I would be lying to you. The wedding day is only the beginning, the title page you could say to the story you and your spouse create together. And when is the title page ever the best part of the story? I mean, sure it catches the readers attention and is the first thing that entices you to read the story; though it is definitely not the best part.
`Alex and I were married February 17, 2007 at the ripe age of twenty years old. He was currently enlisted in the Marine Corps and had already served one seven month deployment to Iraq and had another one in the future. I knew he was the one and that was that. Too make a long story short, we lived in Twentynine Palms, California where he was stationed and dealt with many trials and hardships right until it was his time to get out of the Marine Corps. There were times when he was deployed I would cry myself too sleep every night. It was complete and utter torture wondering if my husband was going to make it home alive to me. When people asked me how I dealt. I honestly do not know what to say. I just did..plain and simple. I didn't really have a choice in the matter. It was out of my control. Then of course we have had our financial struggles (trust me everyone, people do not enlist in the military for the money). The war left some wounds on my husband always and forever. He does have physical problems, such as his knees, back and head though I believe it is the wounds that remain in his heart from the experiences he had to face while being over there are the hardest to deal with. But I am not going to get into any more detail about the past as of now. I am always willing to share my experience with other military wives/girlfriends/finances or to anyone else who may be interested, though I do not want to get into detail right now because I want to focus on the present and the future.
Though I will tell you this, like I said in the beginning, my wedding day was not the best day of my life or marriage. The best time in my life was when my husband and I made it through all the hard aches and struggles and learned to make it in this world as a team. Because I strongly believe there is a light at the end of every tunnel. God does do great things. Especially to those who wait.
Felicia, the wounds in Alex's heart will start to heal as time goes by. A little bit will probably always remain but it will get better.
ReplyDeleteI say this because of how I watched Gary slowly start to deal with the things he saw and had to do while serving in Viet Nam. It's an old cliche' but "Time heals all wounds". We are always here if you or Alex ever need to talk about anything that you think we can help with.
All My Love, Aunt Marilyn